Do you punish yourself?

Me, 20 years ago, I was still having these internal conversations that were damaging me.⁣⁣ I used to say meanest things to myself that I would never ever say to anyone else after binging on a box of donuts (and so many other junks).

• “Why can’t I just have one, instead of 10? I’m so stupid and worthless.”
• “I'm the ONLY one who can’t get food situations under control.”⁣⁣
• “I’m an adult and what the heck is wrong with me?” ⁣⁣
• “I just don’t deserve happiness, and I can’t ever be until I stop eating junk and lose weight.”⁣⁣ ⁣ 

(I covered this in IGTV too.)


Then, I’d punish myself by…⁣

• not eating the next day (and binging on so much junk food at night)⁣
• not doing something I love to do (meeting up with friends)⁣
• letting others treat me very badly (and believing I deserved all)⁣
• not taking care of myself (eating junk, drinking too much, skipping bath, never mind journaling or meditating)⁣
• doing things I’d feel miserable like comparing myself to celebs whose lives looked “perfect” ⁣
• counting overall calories I consumed that day and feeling incapable of being an adult (and obsessing about calories)⁣
• signing many expensive diet programs and esthetic treatments with huge debts⁣

After 20 years of failing and learning, I wish I could tell my younger self that she was doing all wrong. She was focusing on absolutely wrong things. She punishing herself is just her being a victim.

Nobody can do the real hard work for her, but she’s got to start looking within. ⁣⁣No more seeking solutions from others, nor outside sources. She needed to look within. Listen to her heart. Pay attention to her organs and body systems. They’ve been trying to tell her all sorts of things she needed to do. All the answers for her to be healthy and happy were inside of her. ⁣⁣

Can you relate? Is it time to start shifting your focus to WITHIN?
⁣Feeling scared? Well, feel scared and do it anyway, NOW!⁣

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